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iSßhia ,õ tll bkak fokafklag ;ukaf.a uQ,H lghq;= mj;ajdf.k hkak ámaiaæ

oeka Th ,õ tlla mgka .kakfldg iy mgka .;a;= w¨‍; kï f.da,ShlrKh” mqoa.,sl uQ,H l<ukdlrKh” Okjdofha n,mEu jf.a l;kaor ys;kafk fyda l;d lrkafk kEfka’ ta ldf,a —mexpd n;a lEjo@˜” —iqÿ wïñg ksÈu;o˜” —uf. fldKav l=re,a,f. T¿j w;.dkako@˜” —wms wr wE; fmak lkafoa uqÿkg ke., fïu fïu ;=re,a fj,d buqo@˜ jf.a l;kaor ;uhs wefykafka’ yenehs b;ska Th fhdjqka isysk f,dafla yeuodu;a ;ksfj,d bkak neyefka’ wvq ;rfuka ,õ tl iSßhia w;g yeß,d kshu ;df,a wdor iïnkaOhla fjkfldg j;a fmdâvla ;ukaf.a Ôúf;a lghq;= .ek fokakgu iSßhia fjkak isoaO fjkjd’ WodyrKhla úÈhg .;af;d;a fokakf.au mqoa.,sl uQ,HlrKh’ ir,ju wms .uqflda wdodhï iy úhoï lsh,d’ b;ska we;a;gu ,õ ßf,aIkaIsma tll bkak fokafklag Th *hskEkaia .ek fudkjo ys;kak ;sfhkafka@ wdkak ta .ek Wmfoia lSmhla ;uhs wms fï ,ndfokak yokafkaæ

1′ wjxl wdodhu” wjxl úhou

f.dvla fj,djg f.dvla fya;= ksid ,õ lrk flkdg ;ukaf.a yß wdodhu fkdlsh bkak flfkla W;aidy lrkak mq¿jka’ úfYaIfhkau msßñfhla’ we;a;gu msßñfhlaf.ka mäh wykak tmdh” .E‚fhlaf.ka jhi wykak tmdh lsh,d lshukla ;sfhkj ;uhs’ yenehs ´l wod< fjkafka idudkHfhka uqK.efyk whg ñila fld,a,ghs fl,a,ghs fkfjhsfka’ wkak ta ksid wdor iïnkaO;djhla ia:djr jqKdg miafia fokakg fokakd yïnqlrk m%udKh fokaku oekf.k bkak tl fyd|hs’ wdfh f,dl= iSka fmkakkak jeäfhka wdodhu fmkakkj;a” o; .,jkak ys;df.k wvqfjka wdodhu fmkakkakj;a hkak fyd| kE’

ta jf.au ;uhs úhou .ek jqk;a’ fokakg fokakd wjxlju ;ukag udfilg hk úhou .Kkh lrk tl;a” tal ;ukaf.a mdÜk¾g fy<sorjq lrk tl;a fyd|hs’ ta wehs lsh,d biairyg lshjf.k hkfldg jegfyhs’

2′ Kh ;=reia .ek úksúo fjkak” yenehs nr fkdmgjkak

fukak fïl;a Th wdodhï úhoï .ek wjxl fjk l;kaof¾u fldgila’ iuyr fj,djg wmsg kkak;a;dr fjk úÈfha Kh ;=reia weof.k hkak fj,d ;sfhkjd fjkak mq¿jka’ f.dvla fj,djg ,õ lrk fl,a,g fyda fld,a,g jqk;a tfyu foaj,a .ek lshkak wms ,eÊchsfka’ yenehs wms lshkafka ,eÊc fjkak tmd lsh,d ;uhs’ lsh,d ;shkak’ tajd lsõjg;a miafia od,d hkj kï b;ska lrkak fohla kE’ ta lshkafka t;k fid,sâ ,õ tlla kE lshk tl’ ta;a tajd .ek oekqj;a lr,d ;sínyu mq¿jka tajd iïnkaOfhka .; hq;= l%shdud¾. .kak iy taj;a we;=<;a lr,d wkd.f;a ma,Eka lrkak’

yenehs tlla’ fï Kh ;=reia .ek lshkak ´k yjqf,a f.jkak fkfjhs’ fï Kh ;=reia we;sfj,d ;sfhkafka fokakgu wod< ldrKhlg fkfjhs kï” .;a; flkd Kh ál ;ukaf.a wksla wdodhï úhoï tlal ne,kaia lrk tl ;uhs fyd| foa’

3′ Thd fïl lrkav” uu wrl lrkakïæ

wms lidohla tfyu lr.;a;yu;a uQ,H lghq;= .ek l;kaof¾§ jev fnod.kakjfka’ oeka iïnkaO;djhl bkak ldf,È;a we;a;gu fïl fï úÈhgu lrkak mq¿jka’ ta lshkafka oeka lm,a tlla úÈhg fokakg fokakd iïnkaO fjk úhoï ;sfhkjfka’ wkak tajd fnodyod .kak mq¿jka’ WodyrKhla úÈhg wms lshuq fokaku udfilg ierhla g%sma tlla hkjd lsh,d’ wkak t;fldg ´k kï g%sma tfla iuia; úhoï fokakg iuj fnod .kak mq¿jka’ ke;akï fokakf.a wd¾Ól uÜgï j,g idfmalaIj úhoï fnod.kak;a mq¿jka’ ta lshkafka jeäfhka yïnq lrk flkdg jeä jehla iy wvqfjka yïnqlrk flkdg wvq jehla jefgk úÈhg’ tal b;ska fokakd l;d lr,d ;SrKh lr.kak ´k fohla’ yenehs Bg jvd fyd|u iy .eg¿ wvqu l%uh ;uhs úúO úhoï fnod.kak tl’ ta lshkafka Thd jdyfkag f;,a .y,d u.§ wu;rj tk úhoï orkak” uu fydfg,a tfla úhoï orkakï jf.a tlÕ;djhlg tk tl’

we;a;gu fld,a,d ;uhs yeufoagu i,a,s f.jkak ´k jf.a uy;auhskaf.a mqreÿ ;sfhk tl krl kE” fld,a,dg j¾;udkhg iy wkd.f;ag wjq,la fkdù tal yeuodu orkak mq¿jks kï’ tfyu ke;skï fï wd¾Ól ;;a;ajh hgf;a fnodyod.kak tl ;uhs fyd|’

4′ Ôjk rgdjka ´k kï fjkia lr.uq

oeka wms lshuq mj;sk wd¾Ól ;;a;ajh;a tlal Th udislj g%sma hEu” i;shlg j;djla fyd| ;eklska lEu jf.a foaj,a orkak álla wudrehs lsh,d’ wdkak t;fldg fokak;a tlal fmdâvla jdä fj,d wd¾Ól ;Skaÿ ;SrK .kak ´k ;ukaf.a Ôjk rgdj .ek’ úfYaIfhkau u;l ;shd.kak” ,õ lrkjd lshkafka wksla lm,aia lrk foaj,a lrk tl” tfyu lr,d f*ianqla odk tõjd ;ukq;a lrkak kysk tl fkfjhs lshk tl’ mgka .;a;= *q,a ,õ msiaiqfjka bkak ldf,a fldfydu jqK;a” fokakd iSßhia iïnkaOhl bkakjd kï” wkd.f;a .ek;a ys;kak fjkjd’ t;fldg fyd| wkd.;hla fjkqfjka wo ojfia fmdä lÜgla iuyr úg lkak fjkjd’

5′ wkd.f;ag ncÜ tllaæ

fokak;a tlal lido n¢kjd fyda tlg Ôj;a fjkjd lshk ;ekgu iSßhia kï” fokak;a tlal wkd.f;ag ncÜ tlla yod.kak tl;a fyd| fohla’ yenehs fyd¢ka u;l ;shd.kak” isysk f,dalj, b|,d fïl lrkak nE’ wms ne|,d fldfyduyß f,dl= jdykhla .uq” fldfyka yß bvï lE,a,la wrf.k ;Ügq folg f.hla .yuq” fmä.%S n,af,d mia fofkla youq jf.a l;d iqkaor jqkdg” tajd ;ukag lrkak mq¿jkao neßo lshk tl ys;kak ´k’ iuyr fj,djg ;j wjqreÿ myla fyda oyhla hkfldg ´jd lrkak mq¿jka Yla;sh ,efnkak mq¿jka’ yenehs fï wkd.; ncÜ tl we;a;gu yokak ´k ,Õ wkd.f;a .ek ys;,d’

WodyrKhla úÈhg lsjqfjd;a lidohla n¢kjd kï” talg we;a;gu orkak mq¿jka úhou” ta úhou fydhd.kak úÈh” talg b;=re lrkak mq¿jka fldfyduo jf.a lreKq ldrKd ;uhs fï wkd.; ncÜ tlg tkak ´k’ yenehs lidfog iïmQ¾K if;ag tkl,a od,d yßhkafk kE’ wefklaia tlla yß wrf.k Ôj;a fjkak;a i,a,s hkjd’ wkak ta fokak;a tlal tlg bkakfldg orkak fjk úhoï tfyu;a fï wkd.; ncÜ tlg tkak ´k’

6′ .s*aÜ fmd,sisæ

fïl b;ska wms fokakg fokakd ;E.s §.kak tmd lsh,d lshk fohla fkfjhs’ ;E.s fokak’ yenehs fokaku ;ukaf.a wd¾Ól uÜgu .ek;a iú{d‚l fj,d ;E.s .ek ys;kak’ WodyrKhla úÈhg .;af;d;a” .EKq <uhg b;du ñ, wêl ;E.a.la .kak lsh,d ;ukaf.a b;=reï yeufoau yQrk tl {dKjka; ;SrKhla fkfjhs” fokakf.u me;af;ka’ ta ;E.a. wdfhdackhla kï lula kE’ tfyu ke;skï tal f;areula we;s fohla fkfjhs’ wkak ta ksid fokakg fokakd ;E.s §fu§ jf.au ;E.s n,dfmdfrd;a;= ùfu§;a fokakf.au wd¾Ól uÜgï .ek iú{d‚l fjkak ´k’ wkak t;fldg ys;a ßfok wjia:d we;sfjkafk kE’ WodyrKhla úÈhg .;af;d;a” ;du;a remsh,a úisodyl mähla .kak fld,af,laf.ka fl,a, r;a;rka ud,hla b,a,k tl fyd| uÈfka@ wksla me;a;g;a tal tfyuuhs’

7′ fvkaáiaÜ fjkak tmd

fï ldrKdj kï b;ska wuq;=fjka lshkak ´k kE’ ta lshkafka o; .e,ùu’ fl,a, yß fld,a,d yß ;ukaf.a mdÜk¾f.ka o; .,jkjd kï” we;a;gu t;k fckqhska iïnkaO;djhla ;sfhkjo lshk tl;a m%Yakhlafka’ wkak ta ksid wkjYH o;a .e,ùï lsÍfukq;a” ta o;a .e,ùï j,g wyqùfukq;a j<lskak lshk tl ;uhs fokak ;sfhk Wmfoi’ wdof¾ fjkqfjka ;E.s fnda. §u tlla’ yenehs fld,a,g yß fl,a,g yß ySxodäh odk ov oeóu lshk tl wdof¾ fkfjhs’

8′ ;=kafjks tljqkaÜ tlla

fokakd idudkHfhka .kqfokq lrk” ie,ß jefgk tljqkaÜia yjqf,a mdúÉÑ fkdlrk tl ;uhs fyd|u ldrKdj’ úfYaIfhkau fokakf.a mqoa.,sl wjldYfha meje;aug tal f,dl= fohla’ wr wms m<fjkshgu lshmq wjxl Ndjh .ek ldrKdj;a ;sfhk ksid” tfyu mqoa.,sl .sKqï mj;ajd .kak tl .eg¿jla fjkafk kE’

yenehs b;ska Bg wu;rj fokakgu fIhd¾ lrmq ;=kafjks nexl= .sKqula ;sfhk tl;a krl woyila fkfjhs’ tlaflda talg fokakf.a udfia yjqf,a lrk g%sma hEï jf.a jevj,g wod< uqo,a yo,a Th ;=kafjks tljqka‍Ü tfla ;ekam;a lrkak mq¿jka’ tfyu ke;skï wms wr Wäka lsh,d ;sfhkafka wkd.; ncÜ tlla .ek’ wdkak talg wod< b;=reï tfyu;a Th ;=kafjks yjq,a tljqkaÜ tfla ;shd.kak mq¿jka’

9′ ifmdaÜ‍ tl ;ud fkdakd ud;a;hd ´k lrkafkaæ

wdor iïnkaO;djhla we;=f<a bkak fokafklaf.a wd¾Ól Yla;Ska tl yd iudk fkdfjkak mq¿jka’ iuyr fj,djg wd¾Ól Yla;sh jeä flkdg jqk;a j.lSï jeä ksid” thdf.a wf;a b;=re fjkafka wd¾Ól Yla;sh idfmalaIj wvq flkdg jvd wvq wdodhula fjkak mq¿jka’ yenehs b;ska ,õ tl lshkafka Th yeufoau fokak;a tlal ne,kaia lrf.k” fokak;a tlalu f.au .yk tl ;uhs’ wkak t;k§ jeo.;a fjk fohla ;uhs fokakg fokakd tlsfkldg wkd.;h fjkqfjka ,ndfok ifmdaÜ tl’ talg fokakg fokakf.a jerÈ uqo,a Ndú;d lsÍfï p¾hdjka” wkjYH úhoï” jerÈ Ôjk rgdjka tfyu ;sfhkjd kï tajd fmkaj,d fok tl” wfkldg ;ukaf.a jD;a;sfha by<g hkak Wojq lrk tl” fudar,a ifmdaÜ tl fok tl jf.a foaj,a ;uhs Th ifmdaÜ tlg whs;s fjkafka’ fldákau lsjqfjd;a wms fokakd tl àï tlla úÈhg fï f.au .yuq lshk ;ek ;uhs fokaku bkak ´kæ

wka;sug ;j fohla lshkak ´k’ fï úÈhg wdor iïnkaOhl bkak ldf,a b|,u fokakg fokakd fyd| iyfhda.hla fjk iyfhda.S uQ,H m%;sm;a;s yod.;af;d;a” lido Ôúf;alg fyda ,súka gqf.or Ôúf;alg .sh;a Ôúf;a wudrejla fjkafk kEæ fokak;a tlal tlg Ôj;a fjkak .;a;yu wuq;=fjka *hskEkaia fokaku ne,kaia lr.kak l%u iy úê ys;kak oÕ,kak ´ke;a kEæ

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